Salutations. How've you been? I hope all is well out there in Lalaland. Things are okay on My Side of the Looking Glass. I've got a fiancé that treats me like I'm priceless, I'm more or less healthy, and sufficiently medicated. I've got my share of woes, but they will pass, they always do.
I was skimming my Facebook last night around this time. I got REALLY annoyed. First with some of the ridiculous things that I read, then with myself for not doing anything about it. What makes people feel they need to overhaul their entire personality, for someone they themselves have admitted is "probably not the one"? Nevermind the borderline illegal, totally tacky, super low-class behavior. Yeah, I just said that. I'd say it to her face too. Unfortunately all 4 brain cells probably wouldn't understand.
Thus began the need to delete, delete, delete. No big, really. We all need to do it sometimes. It just made me sad to think about just drastically people can change, when it's so fucking superficial. Humans need to change, to evolve, to learn and better themselves. All the time. But, when you're closer to 40 than 30 and you're still doing it for the wrong reasons, grow up. And that's coming from maybe the single least mature, unbalanced, and clueless 39 year old on the planet. Okay, maybe not the planet. There's probably a crackhead somewhere less balanced than I am. But I am articulate, intelligent, and let's face it, pretty darn witty. Clever, even.
I am SO grateful for the friendships that endure the test of time, and life. I get all sappy all the time, lost in my head thinking about how fortunate I am to have the friends that I do. My circle is small, but it's unbelievably strong. When my Mom died they were present and accounted for. When I've had health scares they check on me. No matter how ludicrous my decisions appear to be, they've got my back. I recently had the second most painful thing in my life happen to me, and my friends were right there, doing their best to try to find words to comfort me.
So, if they see someone that deserves that type of friendship, I must be doing something right. It's especially comforting when you think about all the people that so willingly let you walk out of their life. Or in one particularly painful situation, tell you that you are dead to them. But that's a post for another day.
I think the point is, examine what you're allowing into your life. If you have friends that are willing to make the time, you must be doing something right. If you find yourself questioning why you feel let down, or flabbergasted, or just plain sad by the way someone has treated you- that's because YOU allowed them to do it. They're called toxic people, at least in how they relate to you. Why would you put up with that? You can't be open to allowing in new, positive things, if you're caught up dealing with negativity, which tends to stem from the influences you allow into your life. I'm just as guilty of it, as anyone else. I wouldn't have been skimming Facebook getting annoyed last night, if I'd taken personal responsibility for removing people.
One last thing; this political situation is making us all a little nutso. Try to remember not to allow the garbage that the media is spewing, to come between you and the people you love. I have a feeling this will get much worse before it gets better. Your friends will still be around after that inauguration, regardless of whom takes to the oath, if they are truly your friends. THAT, not the POLITICS, is worth fighting for. Educate yourself and vote how you feel is best for you. It's nobody's business but yours. Or, for that matter, don't vote at all. Who am I to tell you what to do? Either way, it's you living in your skin, screw the rest. Just remember the people in your life don't love you for your politics. If they do, they're the wrong people. Simple as that.
Now I must bid you farewell. It seems even my miraculous allergy pills cannot combat the damage that sleeping with my sister's cat all day has done to my eyes. I can barely see a damn thing.
Thank you for visiting My Side of the Looking Glass! Let's do this more often, shall we?
--Chandra :)
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